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... AND CLAIM SUCCESS IN BUSINESS AND LIFE.
"You'll never get more success than this."
It's such a loud voice - but I'm the only one that can hear it.
"Of course she said no - she isn't going to pay that price, and you won't find anyone else who will either."
Nobody but me will ever meet her, but I know her better than anyone.
"That client only gave you a good testimonial because she felt sorry for you."
She's my inner mean girl, and it's up to me to turn down the volume on her untruths and assumptions so I can be free.
"Another business coach with a podcast. That's original. What are you going to say that hasn't already been said?"
The inner mean girl is my affectionate term for our ego (I just think it’s more fun to name her after a classic movie), and it comes up whenever we go to do something scary, new or different.
Enter being an entrepreneur, and all of a sudden you are doing scary, new and different things on the daily.
Your ego is going to try and keep you safe. She’s there to protect you, which is great in some cases; however, taking risks is quite literally how we grow and impact the people we want to reach.
Bad news: she’s a part of you (but she’s not actually you), and she holds all of your experiences, stories, thoughts and feelings.
She will trigger them at any time, and it’s up to you to separate yourself from these stories - which are mostly not truths.
You’ve likely been able to piece together some thoughts that come from the inner mean girl, and you’ve possibly even Googled it, or talked about it with someone else.
“Just don’t listen to your inner critic. Tell them to shut up.”
While these are phrases likely coming from someone in your life that means well, our inner mean girl seems to rise to the challenge when we threaten her.
Let’s choose love instead.
Oprah Winfrey once said, “I believe that every single event in life happens in an opportunity to choose love over fear.”
When we don’t choose love for ourselves, we act out of fear. Listening to your inner mean girl is a way that you might be acting out of fear - believing that anything she says about your business, or your success, is true.
When isn’t the more loving (and helpful) thought that you are meant to be exactly where you are, right now? Especially when there’s confusion, frustration, or disappointment - the challenge is to grow from it.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned, in this journey of being my own boss, is that my “bad” feelings are some of the most general in the world. When I lead by walking next to my clients and say, “me too, let’s get there together,” it’s so much more powerful than “follow me.”
The reason is because I chose to love where I am, at every step in the journey - the peaks and valleys that we are all familiar with as business owners.
I’m teaching my audience to love theirs too - not because I tell them, but because I show them.
Meet allison nelson
business coach for solopreneurs
Allison Nelson is the business coach for solopreneurs looking to take action in growing their online service-based business. She weaves her past experience in marketing, counseling, and education into her passion for helping female entrepreneurs build organic marketing strategies that take their side hustle to consistent income.
Allison believes that with the right blend of strategy and mindset, women don't have to wait until their kids are older or they have more time to grow the business of their dreams and take care of their family. In her spare time, Allison loves reading books with a good cup of coffee, playing princess tea party with her five year old, and organizing (and re-organizing) every room in her house.
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